My husband received a phone call several weeks ago from a woman who advised him to “check out his wife online.” The call precipitated nothing more than a laugh over dinner for us, but it made me start thinking. Namely, about who made the call.
I have my own ideas, as Ernie Hemingway has his. Whether from his list or mine, however, the truth is irrelevant. I don’t really care about the identity of the perpetrator, but I do wonder just what she hoped to accomplish. If the goal was to break up my husband and me, I wonder where she might have gotten the idea that such a juvenile prank might break up a marriage and family.
If perhaps she is reading this, I’m going to go out on a limb and just say, please send me an e-mail. I’d like to hear from her and perhaps she can explain why she choose to engage in behavior that has me harkening back to high school days.
I’ve said it before, and many other much more eloquent writers than I have said it in much better terms, but mean people really suck. I subscribe to the whole karmic justice theory: what goes around comes around. People make mistakes every day, and if a mistake is made, the universe finds a natural way to address that: it’s called an apology.
People can choose to accept or not once an apology is offered, but deliberate nastiness and malicious attempts to harm someone or someone’s family? That’s where karma comes into the equation. Whoever this unfortunate soul is, she must be insecure, unhappy and really not have very much good in her life such that she feels the need to reach out and deliberately try to harm me, my husband and our five-year old child. Karma will come back on her, though, and I’m sure in a way that she cannot even imagine at this point.
Wayne Dyer sums it up for me: “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” How this woman treated me, my husband and my marriage is her karma. My reaction is my karma. I feel sorry for her that she has such a sad and empty life that trying to stir up trouble in someone else’s life seems like a good option.